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Tools for Self-Understanding, Clarity, and Change

We all get stuck sometimes—caught between options, overwhelmed by decisions, or unsure what’s really driving our dissatisfaction. That’s where models and frameworks can help. They don’t tell you what to do. They help you see—your patterns, your parts, your values, and your path forward.

These are not rigid formulas or life hacks. They’re lenses. And the right lens can make all the difference.

Signature Frameworks I Use

The Strategic Parts Framework

Based on the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model, this framework helps you work with the different parts of yourself—not just the loudest voice in the room.

You’ll learn to:

Identify your protectors (the parts trying to keep you safe)
Build trust between them and your core Self
Use your system strategically—not just reactively—to pursue meaningful goals

When your inner team is aligned, you move forward faster—with less friction and more confidence.

The Six Elements of Desire

This model helps you unpack the deeper architecture of your longing and motivation. Whether you’re chasing a goal, recovering from burnout, or redefining success, we break it down into six parts:

– Desire: What you want
– Goals: How you measure progress
– Needs: What must be met to stay energized and resourced
– Values: What matters most
– Beliefs: What you hold as true
– Identity: Who you think you are

Clarity here changes everything.

The Change Curve (aka The Call to Change)

Inspired by Joseph Campbell’s Hero’s Journey—and tailored for real life. This is the arc most of us walk when something in us says: “This can’t go on.” It maps the stages of transformation:

The comfort zone you’ve outgrown
The resistance and fear
The breakthrough
The integration of new truth into daily life

It helps you see where you are and what’s ahead.

The Stages of Acceptance

Growth isn’t linear. Especially when it involves loss, change, or truth you’re not ready to face. This modification of the famous Kübler-Ross stages of grief helps you normalize and track your emotional process, especially when parts of you are still fighting it.

Denial: “This isn’t happening.”
Defense: “I’ll just push through.”
Bargain: “Maybe if I change this it won’t be so bad.”
Breakdown: “It’s not working.”
Breakthrough: “Something has to change.”
Integration: “This is my new reality—and I can work with it.”

Not everyone hits every stage. But most of us visit a few more than once.

Tools from Other Disciplines

Some models aren’t mine, but I borrow them when they fit. Here are a few clients often find useful:

The Eisenhower Matrix – Helps sort what’s urgent vs. what’s truly important
Atomic Habits Framework – Understand how habits form and how to reshape them
Ikigai – A beautiful overlap of what you love, what you’re good at, what the world needs, and what you can be paid for
The Enneagram / MBTI – Helpful personality models when used as mirrors, not boxes

How I Use These in Coaching

I don’t force frameworks. I use them when they help. Some clients love structure; others need space to wander first.

What matters most is this: Each of these models is a way to help you hear yourself more clearly, understand your parts more compassionately, and move forward with more intention.

Want to Learn More?

Let’s explore which model might bring clarity to your turning point. Schedule a free consultation and let’s get to work.

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